Two years ago, I went on a 4 day trip to Shang Chuan Dao, an island on the Southern Coast of China for a geography field trip, carrying a luggage full of food not because I loved it, but because I couldn't bring myself to eat any of the "unhealthy" food that I anticipated would be served at the restaurant in the hotel we were to be staying at. Two years ago, I was mortified when I so much as touched a piece of “restricted” food with my fingers, in fear that the oil would soak into my skin and increase my calorie count. Two years ago, my head of year had to monitor my every move, making sure that I would eat my meals and my "required" snacks at the allotted time slots, and ensuring that I wouldn’t be driven to compulsively exercise in my room. Two years ago, I ran the 6km beach compulsively every day several times during my time on the island because I felt like I was getting "fat". Two years ago, I cried ballistically in my room with my roommate by my side because there was 0.001 grams of trans fat in my can of salmon that I hadn't noticed before I ate it. Two years ago, my trip to the island was filled with tension and anxiety, and I came back to Hong Kong noticeably more emaciated and more mentally traumatised. Two years ago, I dreaded the aftermath that would surely ensue upon my arrival back home: the incessant call of my mind to move around in a desperate effort to "burn it all off", the clandestine crunches that would be done on the cold bathroom floor, the dramatic cutting of food that would leave my stomach pawing at me, to the point of feeling like my insides were scraped raw.
Last week, I visited the same island again, still with a TON of food in my luggage, but only snacks that I loved, rather than portable meals: this time I would enjoy the food provided at the hostel restaurant. Last week, I snacked when I was hungry, and licked the last bits of fried shrimp off my fingertips that I had eaten at dinner time, simply because I felt like it. Last week, I ran on the beach and focused on the soft sand, the moon that was still setting and the sun that was just rising rather than the calories I would have been burning. Last week, I did not mourn the loss of a morning run due to the approach of a thunderstorm by compensating with another workout in my room, and instead took the opportunity to enjoy the beauty of the storm clouds rolling in. Last week, I chose to spend time with my amazing friends playing volleyball on the beach, running through the tumultuous waves and strolling on the seaside promenade rather than isolating myself in my room to work out or eat my secret “rations” of food, because I definitely wasn’t going to be silly one missing out on all the memories that were being made. Last week, I made lasting memories by spending quality time with my teachers and friends, and made the most of our last school trip together. Last week, I came back to Hong Kong with water blisters, smelly socks and a sweaty body, but also a heart filled with vibrant energy and a mind bursting with exciting experiences to blurt out to my parents. Last week, there was no “aftermath” for me to fret about, but rather, exhilaration in knowing that I had a friend’s birthday dinner to attend that evening.
Once I realized how happy I could be in relishing my experiences and making long-lasting memories that I would surely reminisce upon later in my life during this trip, it really hit me how sad it was for me to have “wasted my quota” 2 years ago. I can’t help but think about how much fun and laughter I blocked out when I was caught in my own, obsessively controlled world. However, I am nothing but grateful for being granted a second chance to correct this mistake of mine, and be at peace knowing that I have at least one set of beautifully crafted memory packages to keep in my mind forever.
In the end, time was really just the transient wind blowing: it was the initiative on the part of my family and friends to help the unconscious and waterlogged me take advantage of the high tide and bring me to shore.